When Achievement Still Doesn’t Feel Like Enough: Self-Worth and External Validation
Learning to accept praise
A space for gentle reflection
Welcome to the Becoming You Counselling blog. Here, you will find thoughts, insights, and guidance around the challenges we all face at different points in life—feeling lost, overwhelmed, disconnected, or simply needing space to pause. Take what resonates, move at your own pace, and remember… you deserve to be heard.
This short video reflects some of the heart behind Becoming You Counselling.
Sometimes life can leave us feeling disconnected from ourselves. We become consumed by responsibilities, expectations, survival, and the roles we carry for others, until one day we begin asking ourselves, “Who am I beneath all of this?”
Part of my work in counselling is helping people reconnect with who they are beyond anxiety, self-doubt, people-pleasing, addiction, emotional overwhelm, or simply years of surviving.
If you’re feeling lost, stuck, or unsure of yourself, but you’re not certain therapy is for you, I understand how difficult life can sometimes feel. I speak not only from professional training, but from genuine lived experience too.
Maybe Self-Worth Wounds Sit Deeper Than Achievement
In my last blog, When Achievement Still Doesn’t Feel Like Enough, I reflected on how difficult it can be to truly accept our accomplishments, even when we’ve worked hard for them.
How Much of Myself is Safe to Show?
After having a conversation around masking and ADHD, where masking is often described as the conscious or unconscious act of concealing behaviors, traits or characteristics that may be perceived as different, this really got me thinking. I began questioning whether masking is just part and parcel of the day-to-day lives of those with ADHD or perhaps it is woven into many people's daily experiences.
Understanding yourself a little more
These posts are not about fixing you or giving you all the answers. They are here to gently support you in understanding yourself a little more. I believe that true growth comes from within, and my articles aim to provide the tools and perspectives to help you on that journey.
Pause and reflect
If something here resonated, we invite you to pause for a moment. Notice what stayed with you, what felt familiar, and what felt important. You do not need to have all the answers. Sometimes, simply allowing yourself that awareness is a powerful first step.
Your unique journey to becoming you
Our blog stands out by focusing on gentle guidance and personal growth, reflecting the core philosophy of Becoming You Counselling. We explore topics with a compassionate approach, ensuring each post encourages self-awareness without pressure. This is your space to discover, understand, and embrace your unique path.